Friday, November 10, 2006

Opening Night!

Well, it's finally here...Opening night (for me) of Die Fledermaus. I went to see and help the other cast last night. I had a really weird energy though...The show was good, but I felt dazed about it. I think that because we had somewhat of an audience at our last dress rehearsal, that it didn't have all of the energy of an opening night, though the cast was certainly excited.

I am mostly excited because of my family coming into town. My mother is actually bringing my WEDDING DRESS which finally arrived! Plus, the President of Miami University and the head of residence life (my uber boss for my graduate assistantship) are coming, and three of my good friends from CCM.

Tonight, tonight, tonight!
:: posted by Bryn, 7:13 AM


I expected you to do well and I got it from Cam that it did. I love your voice and I believe in it. Now on to more new roles. :)
Anonymous Joe the Mo, at 4:01 AM  
Congratulations on your marriage, Mrs. Vertesi!

Blogger Ariadne, at 5:02 AM  
I love your blog, and appreciate your ability to articulate your passion for singing. Sometime I'd love to hear more about your Candide and Die Fledermaus experiences, as well as your career since 2006.

The following are a few of the realities that have existed since opera began:
- Opera managers probably don't care if any two singers in a production are married, lovers, or even know each other, unless they have a reason that makes sense to them. It is up to the prospective singers to give them good reasons.
- Opera managers tend to hire singers:
a) Who will show up no matter what and do the job.
b) Whose performance will convince the audience that the manager made a brilliant choice.
- People modify their goals periodically throughout their lives, and not always because of perceived failures, or as grand sacrifices for love or children.
- All people will change or modify their careers over time in order to achieve their goals.
- Most of your goals and priorities will evolve and change over the years. You don't need to make apologies for it, and you don't need to feel sorry for others when they make those changes in their lives.
- The individuals in a couple will grow and evolve. By sharing goals and with some serious snuggling and talking, the two of you can grow compatibly even if in slightly or greatly different directions.
- All people who are serious about their careers have to confront the conflicts between family and career, whether or not they are performers, and whether or not they are men or women. It's been done. Learn about how they did it.

There are people who will tell you that you simply cannot be a parent (or married, or short, or black, or whatever) and have a serious career. Some will tell you that if you haven't "made it" by 40, your career will never amount to anything. Bullpucky!

If you and your partner have comprehensive goals that excite you both, you will tend to achieve them, no matter what they are. There are some exceptions, but when you are starting out, ignore suspected exceptions.

Except this one: If you want to be a "star" who is the "best in the world," then I would suggest you quit now. There is no such thing. Those people that some would consider to be "stars" are really only working artists who consistently give world-class performances and probably also have good publicists on their team.

If what you want to do is to consistently sing beautifully, share wonderful music with your audiences, touch their lives with your voice in a meaningful way, and make a good living while you joyfully grow old together, then this kind of thing is very possible as long as your goals and priorities are written down.

In my seminar, The Performing Mind™ I go into more detail about how to set goals and deal with the inevitable conflicts between goals over time, how goals create tendencies, and how to use goals and objectives to evaluate your progress.

On a personal note, once upon a time my sweetheart and I told each other we wanted to grow old together, and I'm astonished how true that has become. We've now been married for 43 years, and not only do her kisses still curl my toes, but she still gives me "that smile" when I sing to her.

I wish you and Cam the absolute best that music and love have to offer.

Michael Kysar
The Performing Mind™
Anonymous Michael Kysar, at 7:09 PM  

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